HePays Safety Center
Sugar dating and findom involve money and strangers - exactly the combination scammers look for. This page covers what HePays does to protect you, the scams we see most, and the rules experienced members never break.
How HePays protects members
- Profile verification: members can verify with photo ID and government ID - look for the badges on member cards before investing time.
- Video verification: profiles with the red play badge recorded a live video to prove they are real.
- Human moderation: reported profiles get reviewed and scam accounts are banned; their usernames and IP patterns feed our automatic registration blocklists.
- On-platform payments: tributes and transfers through the platform leave a record - the first thing scammers try to do is move you off it.
The 6 scams that catch everyone once
1. The overpayment refund"I sent $2,000 by mistake - refund $500." The screenshot is fake, the check bounces, your refund was real money. Money is only real once it is spendable in your account.
2. The fee to receive moneyAny "activation fee", gift card "verification" or crypto "transfer channel" you must pay before receiving his generosity is theft. Real generosity never costs the receiver anything.
3. The bank-login "deposit""Give me your online banking login and I'll deposit your allowance directly." He empties the account or uses it for fraud in your name. No legitimate person ever needs your login.
4. Receive-and-forward"Keep $300, forward the rest to my assistant." That is money laundering, and legally it is YOUR crime. Never move money through your accounts for anyone.
5. The premium-content advance(For findoms) A "paypig" promises a huge tribute after you send custom content first. Content sent, account deleted. Tribute first, always - see our
paypig screening guide.
6. The off-platform rush"Let's move to WhatsApp/Telegram immediately." Off-platform there is no moderation, no report button, no ban. Scammers need to leave; genuine members don't mind staying while trust builds.
First-meeting checklist
- Video chat before meeting - it eliminates most catfish in five minutes.
- Meet in a public place, daytime or early evening, never a private address first.
- Arrange your own transport both ways; never depend on his car.
- Tell a friend where you are, with whom, and set a check-in time.
- Keep your drink in sight and stay clear-headed.
- Any pressure to skip these steps is itself a red flag.
Money rules that never bend
- Cash, platform tributes, or irreversible-to-sender methods only. No checks, no "refundable" deposits.
- Never share documents, card photos, or banking credentials.
- Agree terms before meeting - our allowance guide covers how to set and state your number.
- If something feels engineered to confuse you, it is. Walk away; there are thousands of real members.
Report it
Every profile has a report button - use it even when you just have a bad feeling. Reports are reviewed by humans, and one report often protects dozens of other members. For account issues, reach us via the contact page.
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